In order to refine physical, mental, and spiritual health, emotional health must also be addressed and developed. The liver deals with exposure to all stressors and pollutants, including smoking, sugar, alcohol, processed foods, a diet high in carbs, and harmful fats such as deep-fried foods and hydrogenated oils. When the liver is stressed and imbalanced, it is expressed through excessive anger, so let’s begin with this challenging emotion.
Very often drinking, smoking, eating, or using drugs is a way for us to either release our anger by saying what we otherwise cannot say, or to temporarily ease the anger. The issue with this, however, is that the anger can either be expressed dysfunctionally, or it gets packed in and grows into resentment. Either way, relational and physical tensions rise, only to increase our anger even more.
Take a moment to contemplate this. Is anger a reason that you drink, smoke, eat, or use any drugs (prescribed, over-the-counter or illicit)? Is anger a primary motivator for you in general? How do you express your anger? Do you hold it in, or does it explode out of you? Do you feel resentments welling up in you? Are you able to speak on your resentments, and when you do, how well do you say what you mean?
Identify with something you feel angry or resentful about. Sit with it in this moment. Where in your body do you feel it? Does it raise your hair, do you feel it in your skin, in your gut; does it swell as tears in your eyes? Where and how specifically can you feel the sensation of anger in your body?
Physically, anger (and irritation) loved to be MOVED out of the body. Running, walking, punching the air or a pillow, dancing, jumping around, or any creative activity, can offer some temporary relief.
For long-term benefit, however, we need to gain awareness of our behaviors to reduce anger at their source, to keep it from growing within us emotionally, mentally, physically (and spiritually), and to ease its impact on our actions and interactions through our days that grow into the bigger picture of our personality, identity, motivation, inspiration, and purpose throughout our lives.
Answer these questions, either mentally or by writing your answers down:
👉🏼 Whom do you feel angry with?
👉🏼 What happened? (begin with one specific scenario)
👉🏼 Were you dishonest in the moment in any way, either by saying something you didn’t mean, exaggerating the truth, or withholding the truth altogether?
👉🏼 How would you handle that situation differently now?
👉🏼 How can that scenario teach you how to express yourself more honestly and optimally in the future?
You can apply these questions to any situations that you feel anger or resentment, and look for the common threads in your relationships and the scenarios you tend to be in and how you handle them.
*If you notice that all of your anger is aimed toward institutions and macro issues such as government, inequality, destruction of our planet, etc., can you break this down into something smaller that is within your direct capacity to change? If this is your tendency with anger, notice this–do you intellectualize your anger, and can you begin to allow yourself to feel anger in your inter/personal realm of life?
*If you feel anger about childhood events, you don’t need to take responsibility for them–you were a kid! Begin with more recent scenarios and relationships that will empower you now. Childhood hurts can be felt and faced using different tools, under more sensitive circumstances.
From your answers, discern your honesty–how honest were you, really? If you weren’t, why not? For example, did you want the person’s approval; did you want to keep the peace, or did you not feel angry in the moment but only later in reflection?
Many need to take a few moments or minutes (or longer) before speaking on anger, learning to pause. Others who chronically withhold their truth (either by telling no one or those it doesn’t pertain to) need to learn to let it out, even if it’s messy in the beginning. Granted, if you feel that it is unsafe to express your anger in a sensitive manner, that is an indication of a potentially harmful and toxic relationship, which may be your anger asking you to get out of that situation all together! Either way, it requires discipline and diligence to change habits in expressing anger with love and care, even if that love and care is first for yourself, your safety, your growth and well-being.
It’s also important to remember that others can benefit from your honesty, by learning more about themselves through your experience with them. Maybe you’re the only one who can help them grow in specific ways. Relationships can strengthen with the challenge and integrity in sensitive honesty.
What are your patterns? And how does any use of self-medication help or hinder your capacity to be honest with your anger?
If we are plagued by resentment, anger, or irritation that sometimes wants to explode, for physically supportive tools, supplementing or drinking tea with milk thistle and burdock root offers incredible support and detoxification to the liver. Supplementing with quality and preferably activated B-complex may be necessary since B vitamins are depleted with stress and toxic consumption that harm the liver in the first place.
All of these supportive tools, including identifying behavioral tendencies, build a foundation that reduces cravings for our liver-destructive, self-medications, including smoking, sugar, alcohol, processed foods, a diet high in carbs, and harmful fats such as deep-fried foods, hydrogenated oils, and saturated fats from meat and diary products. Any of these fixes need to be reduced for us to heal. Moving lymph to aid daily detoxification will be of great benefit as we heal, if not utterly necessary, moving damage from our livers out of our bodies.
Because health is a web between our thoughts, behaviors and communication, interaction and consumption, our beliefs AND emotions, a supportive program can be exactly what we need for wholesome transformation. I run the Holistic Liberation Program that offers exactly that. Check here for more information.